“The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart, and being thoughtful, and being generous. Everything else is crap. I promise you.” –Ashton Kutcher
Reason #1: Both Men And Women Are Attracted To Generosity
In an article titled “7 Weird Traits That Make Men Attractive” Everyday Health writer Chris Iliades pins down “Good Character” as one of the top qualities that women find attractive in men. Iliades cites a study from the British Journal of Psychology that demonstrated that women view generous men—men who are honest, reliable, accountable, and trustworthy—as appealing partners for long-term relationships.
Another article by Temma Ehrenfeld published in Psychology Today points to humility as a research-proven quality that both women and men find attractive. Ehrenfeld defines a humble person as someone who is “helpful, generous, respectful during conflicts, or accepting of criticism.” And she cites several studies in which male and female participants showed a preference towards humility as an appealing trait in potential partners.
So often in our society, the world conditions us to believe that compassion is weak or “nice guys finish last.” But truth be told, a generous, kind, helpful, compassionate, and respectful attitude is one of the most attractive qualities you can have. And as Ashton Kutcher brilliantly said during his 2013 Teen Choice Awards speech, “everything else is crap.”
Having a nice personality can get you very far with the opposite sex (or the same sex depending on what you prefer).
Because generosity is sexy.
The following are two more reasons why embracing generosity can make you more attractive.
Reason #2: Relationships Thrive On Mutual Generosity
According to an article written by Amy Peterson for Family Share, the “2 Traits Scientifically Proven To Make Your Relationship Last” are kindness and generosity. Peterson cites years of psychology research from the Gottman Institute that determined that couples that treat each other with kindness, compassion, generosity, and unselfishness tend to last longer than couples that don’t.
Relationships thrive on mutual generosity. Couples that focus on nurturing each other’s goals, needs, wants, dreams, visions, growth, and happiness are the healthiest.
So if you’re looking to lock down that partner of your dreams, start by embracing an philosophy of kindness, compassion, giving, and unselfishness. Generosity will not only make you more attractive to potential partners, but will also boost the health of your relationships when you actually do settle down.
Reason #3: Generosity Boosts Happiness. And Happiness Is The Most Attractive Quality
Lots people look for love in hopes that their dream-relationship might offer them true happiness. We head out to bars and clubs, we go speed-dating, and we sign up for online dating platforms all in hopes that the right relationship with the right person might offer us lasting happiness. But that approach is backwards.
In an article for Elite Daily titled “The Reasons Why Happiness Is The Most Attractive Quality,” writer Paul Hudson kicks off by explaining a powerful principle for healthy relationships: “True love requires happiness; not the other way around.”
Hudson’s advice couldn’t be more on point. Healthy relationships requires true happiness; not the other way around.
So the best way to create true love is to find genuine happiness first. Don’t worry yourself with chasing down the right girl or guy to make yourself happier. Don’t depend on other people for your fulfillment. Focus on your happiness first.
If you are looking to lock down your perfect match, creating a high quality of happiness for yourself is the smartest move you can make. Because happiness is the most attractive quality there is. Happy people are more confident, independent, energetic, giving, passionate, strong, likable, and physically attractive.
A joyful, carefree, high-spirited, grateful attitude is the most appealing quality you can have. And one of the most powerful ways to build up that happiness is to give.
As I described in my first ever MuchokiMotivation blog post, giving is a research proven happiness-booster. So be kinder. Be more generous. Lend a helping hand every time you get the opportunity. And give as much of yourself to the world as possible. Because generosity boosts happiness. And happiness is the most attractive trait there is.